As we close this transformative year, I reflect deeply on the parallels between my journey with money and my emotional healing. Rewinding the tapes of my life, I see pivotal moments where unresolved beliefs about abundance held me hostage. These moments became the seeds of self-doubt, where shame whispered that I wasn’t good enough.
Christmases of my past come to mind—when both of my parents used grand gestures to mask their own struggles. Looking back, I see how those moments planted subconscious money mindset beliefs about material wealth being a tool for validation and love. As I’ve untangled these abundance blocks, I’ve learned to see the credit card debt and emotional spending of my past not as failures but as calls for help from a younger version of myself yearning for peace of mind.
This past Thanksgiving, I traveled to Bozeman, Montana, to spend the holiday week with the Walker side of the family. It was an experience I deeply cherished but also one that brought unfiltered truths to the surface. Watching my cousins with their families—their kids running in and out of homes situated on 200 acres, their well-built houses, their seemingly successful and lucrative careers—stirred a storm within me. My observations of their lives turned into comparisons, and comparison mindset became my suffering. I measured my self-worth against theirs, believing for a moment that my lack of material abundance or a conventional life path meant I had failed.
Comparison mindset is a killer. It robs us of gratitude, fuels our insecurities, and suffocates our souls. Measuring our self-worth monetarily or materially is soul death. In those raw, painful moments, I felt the truth of that lesson deeply. I realized that my worth isn’t defined by bank accounts or property. My Empire—my operating system—is built on purpose, morals, goals, and values. It’s a self-governance that ensures everything in my life aligns with my highest calling, from the way I show up for my son to how I contribute to my clients' holistic transformation.
As Deepak Chopra beautifully stated in The Spiritual Laws of Success:
"Success in life could be defined as the continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goals. Success is the ability to fulfill your desires with effortless ease."
He reminds us that material wealth is just one component of success. True abundance includes health, enthusiasm for life, meaningful relationships, creative freedom, emotional stability, and peace of mind. It’s a journey, not a destination, and I’m learning to honor the unique path I walk.
As I prepare for 2025, I invite you to reflect on the stories you’ve told yourself about money, worth, and success. How often have you compared your life to others, only to feel diminished? What would happen if you rewrote your narrative? Let’s step into this New Year with compassion for our past decisions and the courage to embrace a new paradigm—one rooted in abundance, alignment, and self-love.
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