When was the last time you stopped to really think about what it means to “be a man”?
In today’s world, masculinity is being reimagined—and not a moment too soon. On the latest episode of The Wild Sage Society Podcast, Marcie Walker sits down with regenerative farmer and father, Jesse Carstairs, to explore how farming, family life, and emotional growth are all connected—and why that matters more than ever.
Whether you're a parent, a partner, or someone on a healing journey, this conversation offers fresh insights into living with intention, leading with love, and reconnecting with what really matters.
From Soil to Soul: What Regenerative Farming Taught One Father About Life
Jesse’s journey into regenerative agriculture began with a desire to nourish—not just the land, but his family.
Regenerative farming goes beyond “organic.” It’s a holistic, sustainable approach that heals the soil while supporting long-term health for people and the planet.
“Regenerative practices take us back to our roots.” – Jesse Carstairs
Through farming, Jesse found a deeper connection to nature—and to himself. He quickly noticed how soil health and family health are more connected than we think. The more intentional his farming became, the more grounded and present he felt as a father and partner.
Rethinking Masculinity: Presence Over Performance
Let’s be honest: traditional masculinity hasn’t always made space for vulnerability. But Jesse believes the tides are turning—and that’s a good thing.
“There’s nothing toxic about masculinity,” he shares. “But leadership is missing in the household.”
For Jesse, healthy masculinity means showing up fully—emotionally, physically, and relationally.
Gone are the days when being a good dad or partner just meant “providing.” Today’s real leaders in the home are those who:
- Are emotionally available
- Take responsibility for the tone of their household
Lead by creating emotional and physical safety
Emotional Safety Is the New Superpower
One of the most powerful takeaways from this episode is the idea that vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s strength.
Jesse believes that healing masculinity means learning to truly listen, especially in relationships. Not to “fix” or defend, but to hold space.
“Communication should prioritize listening to understand rather than responding to defend.”
This shift creates room for trust, healing, and real connection. It also teaches our children—especially sons—that feelings matter and that leadership includes compassion.
3 Practical Ways to Redefine Masculinity in Your Own Life
Inspired by Jesse’s story? Here are a few small, meaningful shifts you can start making today:
1. Step Into Conscious Leadership
Ask yourself: How can I be more present and intentional in my household? Leadership starts at home—and it looks like presence, empathy, and follow-through.
2. Listen First
Next time you’re in a tough conversation, pause before you reply. Try validating your partner’s emotions before offering a solution. (It’s a game-changer.)
3. Reconnect With Nature
Whether it’s through a backyard garden, shopping local, or simply learning where your food comes from—get curious about sustainability. What’s good for the planet is good for your body and your family.
Final Thoughts
Masculinity is not broken—but it is evolving. And that’s something to celebrate.
By leaning into presence, emotional safety, and sustainable living, men like Jesse Carstairs are showing us that real strength is rooted in self-awareness, not stoicism.
It’s time to redefine what leadership and love look like in modern families—and to cultivate the kind of emotional intelligence that nourishes everyone around us.
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